Aaron's blog - A Change of Pace
All of my family being around all the time / change in structure
There has been a change in structure for many people; you could say that there is now no given structure and that it has to be created by you and those around you. Especially since I am autistic, I find the rigid structure a very important part of my life, but since everyone is at home at the same time during this lock-down it’s easy for everything to become a bit mixed up and the sensory challenges are also greater.
What has helped me with this?
Firstly I have talked to my family more than I usually would about what is helpful and what is not. This is not only useful so that you can accommodate each other better, but it’s also a chance to learn more about your family members. I have taken the chance to further educate my loved ones about autism and how it affects me. This is not only useful for right now, but also going forward into the future when times change again and new challenges come up, which they will.
Feeling closer to your family can be a nice thing for many people. I don’t write lists, which I know are helpful for many people, but I make mental notes at night for what I will do in the next day. I tell myself what I’m going to do and when, and then most importantly I follow through and do it.
When you start ticking off the objectives on this mental list soon after or as soon as you wake up, your mind becomes more settled and you will feel a sense of achievement boosting you through your day with a clearer mind. You can then follow a valuable course of action rather than just using your time aimlessly.
Being consistent with the valued activities that you place on your list will naturally bring a sense of structure.
Having much more free time than usual
This is a shared problem (or blessing) for everyone at this time; it depends on which way you look at it. You are probably not used to having a lot of your normal daily activities stripped away from you and suddenly having much more time on your hands.
What has helped me with this?
Having a purpose and recognising a sense of purpose always comes alongside a passion. Find something that you are passionate about, something that brings you true joy when you immerse yourself in it and if you already have a passion, continue following it and explore it further.
Some people find their passion very quickly. Some people take longer to find it, but there will always be something out there for you.
My passion is producing electronic music. My Digital Audio Workstation is FL Studio and it is in the company of this software that I can happily spend many hours creating. I’ve had this passion for around three and a half years and producing music is now my ideal career choice.
Your passion can lead to new discoveries, things that you never knew about the yourself and the world around you. It doesn’t matter what gives you that spark from within : make it your active goal to pursue it .
I hope that you found some value in my words. I know that everyone is different. What works for me may not work as well for someone else. Therefore you should take small pieces of advice but put them together in the way that works best for you.