“When you are feeling lost… you have to remember the strongest, most powerful thing you can do is ask for help”
It can be really hard as a guy to open up, especially when things are tough and there seems no way out. But with the right help you can get your life back on track. And help is available.
Need help fast?
In an emergency if you or someone else has seriously injured themselves or is on the point of doing so
- Phone 999 or go directly to A&E
If you need help fast but it’s not a 999 emergency
- Call 111 (Open 24 hours). The person you speak to will ask questions about how you are with are feeling. They may put you in touch with another support service or your GP
- Contact your GP and ask for an urgent appointment
- Speak to someone – do let someone you trust know how you are feeling
Who can help?
- Talk to someone you trust and let them know how you are feeling
- Contact your GP. If you are worried about explaining things and asking the right questions you might find Doc Ready helpful
- If your difficulties have been going on for a while and are interfering with your life you may need some professional support
⁃ If you are under 18 the local CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) might be the right service for you. Ask your GP to help you contact them or you may be able to contact CAMHS directly and ask for help (self-referral). If you live in BaNES or Wiltshire click on this link for self-referral.
⁃ If you are over 18 Adult Mental Health Services may be appropriate.
Other organisations that can help include:
Text the Young Minds Crisis Messenger, for free 24/7 support across the UK if you are experiencing a mental health crisis.
- If you need urgent help text YM to 85258
- All texts are answered by trained volunteers, with support from experienced clinical supervisors
- Texts are free from most mobile networks
- There is also lots of information and advice on a range of mental health issues. Find out more here
Free, safe and anonymous online support for young people available Monday – Friday 12noon – 10pm and Saturday – Sunday 6pm -10pm.
On Kooth you can:
- chat to one of their friendly counsellors
- read articles written by young people
- Get support from the Kooth community
- Write in a daily journal
Samaritans offer a safe place for you to talk any time you like, in your own way – about whatever’s getting to you. You don’t have to be suicidal.
Open 24 hours a day 365 days of the year. If an immediate response is needed its best to call. The number is free.
The Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) is a leading movement against male suicide, the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK.
CALM provides a helpline for men of all ages in the UK who are down or have hit a wall for any reason, who need to talk or find information and support. They are open 5pm–midnight, 365 days a year.
For more info about the helpline service and call costs visit the helpline page. If you are in need of text-based support, please use the webchat facility.
CALM also provide some great information about a range of issues that can affect your mental health and wellbeing. Find out more here.
The Mix is the UK’s leading support service for young people under 25 covering issues from homelessness, relationship breakups to mental health issues.
You can contact them via:
- Free confidential helpline 0808 808 4994 4pm-7pm, 7 days a week
- Crisis messenger which provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK. If you’re aged 25 or under and are experiencing any painful emotion or are in crisis, you can text THEMIX to 85258
- Email anytime about your situation and they will respond within 24 hours
- One to one online chat allows you to live message a trained helpline supporter. Open 4pm – 11pm 7 days a week
- The Mix Counselling service provides short term help with emotional and mental health issues. Webchat counselling is offered to 10 – 18 year olds and telephone counselling to under 25s
Papyrus provides confidential support and advice to young people and young adults under 35 struggling with thoughts of suicide.
It also supports anyone worried about a young person through their helpline, HOPELINEUK.
10am – 10pm weekdays
2pm – 10pm weekends
2pm – 10pm bank holidays
If you would like to support us in any way please get in touch via the following emails:
If you would like to support our work please donate to our partner organisation The Charlie Waller Trust and state specifically Boys in Mind / Girls Mind Too so that the funds will be transferred to the Boys in Mind budget.